Everyone goes through a "friend break-up" at some point in their lives. Whether you've grown out of talking to someone, you've realised you have no similar interests, or they're simply not friendly enough with you for you to consider them your friend, it happens. Sometimes we want it to happen, and sometimes we don't, but either way it's probably for the best.
*I figured this t-shirt was appropriate
But how do you know when it's time to just stop being 'friends' with someone? I am notorious for trying to find the good in everything and everyone. When it comes to people, this isn't necessarily my best trait. It can be hard to notice unhealthy behaviour in someone else, and easier to blame their problems on yourself rather than going through the hassle associated with a confrontation. Realistically, it can be hard to notice when a relationship has a negative impact on your life, so I've compiled a few warning signs that might suggest it's time to say Bye Felicia.
1. You're putting in more effort than them
You'll buy them lunch, let them borrow your favourite outfit, talk them up when they're down and everything in between, but when you need a helping hand they're nowhere in sight.
2. Is it genuine? Or just easier?
You're going to have some friend in life that are just friendly with you because it makes things a little bit easier. If your friendship feels like a transaction ("you have to do this because I did that for you" kind of vibe), then that's usually a red flag.
3. Unhealthy Energy
You've started going to the gym, but they're trying to dissuade you from keeping it up, when you go out, they try to get you to drink more than you'd like, and they have a tendency to put you down. If someone is making you feel inadequate, you don't owe them your time.
4. Being Yourself?
So you're too loud, too extra, too much of everything that they don't like. If you're acting differently than how you usually would, or how you would like to around one of your friends, then it's unlikely that your friendship is healthy. If you can't be yourself, who can you be?
5. Do you value the time you spend with them?
It's a simple question. Does the time you spend with your friend add any value to your life, or is it more of a necessity. How do you feel after spending time with them? Good friends make time for each other, and enjoy the time they spend together.
When a friendship turns toxic, it can feel like there's no way out. Trust your instinct, and if you feel like it's time to move on, that's okay.
Until tomorrow,
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