Tuesday, 26 September 2017

Grow



"The hardest time in your life is when you're transitioning from one version of yourself to another"

"Finding yourself" is perhaps the most relevant conversational topic of the twenty-first century. Call it cheesy, or even downright ridiculous, but nonetheless, it seems to have peaked as a key issue within our society of late. Confidence and self-love seem to be a gift that very few receive, while most people are plainly just lost in a sea of "normality". But what is normal? Who determines what normal should look and feel like? As I venture into adulthood, it seems to me that "normal" is a phenomenon that must be left behind in order to grow.




T-Shirt & Trousers, Zara // Shoes, Anya Hindmarch


I feel as though we all get a little bit too caught up with trying to follow the status quo at the best of times. From an early age we are told to wear a uniform, so that everyone looks the same, and to follow a set of rules that ensure that everyone is painted as one. With hundreds of schools across the country standing by the motto "There is Strength in Unity," it makes me question why no one ever speaks of the strength associated with individuality. 








I think that as individuals we find ultimate power in self-expression. Being unapologetically you. Life is too short to be a follower, and sometimes it's important to dictate the outcome yourself. That's something that I feel like I've really been trying my best to do ever since I finished school. We are taught how to be the same, but as you grow older you have to teach yourself how to be different, and how to be you






Over the course of the last six months I feel like I've really finally taught myself how to be me; wearing what I want, doing what makes me happy, and generally not being too pushed to follow the status quo. While a Summer of working two jobs, and meeting so many new people has ultimately forced everything to fall into place for me, there are of course a few things you can do to make the transition a little easier for you too 











1. Trust yourself
2. Step outside your comfort zone
3. Surround yourself with people that care
4. Be a listener
5. Believe in yourself
6. Find your happy place
7. Enjoy spending time alone as well as with others






Take what you wish from my list, but remember always; "When a flower doesn't bloom you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower"




T-Shirt & Trousers, Zara // Shoes, Anya Hindmarch (as above in tan/brown)





Stay beautiful,

*Photo Credits, Eoin Coleman



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Friday, 8 September 2017

FRESHERS



First year of college can seem daunting at the best of times. Lately I have been absolutely inundated with messages on what to expect from first year of college, and while I'm 210% no expert, I have definitely picked up a few tips along the way on how to survive first year, and how to make a home away from home. So due to popular demand, here are some of my top tips on to make the most of your time as a fresher. 





If you haven't noticed, I absolutely adore quotes, and one the has really resonated with me lately is this; "The world hates change, but the only thing change has ever brought about is progress." Each word is so undeniably true. Change is never easy, and perhaps at this stage of your life heading to college is the biggest change you've been challenged by yet. As a young adult, adapting to new environments and new people can be overwhelming. What's most important right now is understanding that everything is going to be shiny and new. For some this may be refreshing, and for others maybe it's a little scary. Try to embrace this newness, and allow yourself to be open to the experiences that college life have to offer. 





Become a "yes" person, at least for a few weeks. If someone asks you to lunch, or even for a night out, just say yes. Even if you know that you'd rather be pretty much anywhere else in the entire world, give it at least one shot. Take people up on every invitation, go to every event and just be yourself along the way. Meet as many new people as you can. Making new friends in college can be a little daunting, but the more people you meet the more likely you are to find the ones you really click with.






If you ask any student that's gotten through first year of college for one golden piece of advice, I'm sure you will quickly notice one topic resurfaces every time they reminisce on their time as a fresher; going to lectures. While college is of course a place that allows you to find yourself, it's important to remember that it's primarily a place of learning. I know you're probably cringing at this, but realistically you've just paid €3,000+ to get an education. Don't waste your time or money. Go to your lectures, take notes and stay alert. 







While it's so important to go to lectures, tutorials and classes, most of the work that will determine your grade will be done at the library. I'm not implying that you should be there 24/7, or even at all during freshers week, but try to make time as the year goes on to make study a regular thing. Keep on top of all of your notes and try to get comfortable with using your library and its facilities





 This is your chance for fresh starts and new beginnings; make the most of it! 






Until next time,


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Tuesday, 15 August 2017

Cross Roads



Ah, Summer. Three glorious months of freedom, well, for most. However, I for one am beyond ready to head back to college. Working two Summer jobs and trying to make time for everything and everyone has definitely taken it's toll on me, and while I hope you can't see the bags under my eyes through my MAC studio fix concealer, they certainly are there. Generally I look beyond drained on a daily basis, and so in light of that, I recently decided to treat myself. After all, I am a firm believer that when you look good, you feel good, and finally I feel like I am doing both.






While I usually have a lot to say, and even more to offer my opinion on, lately I feel like I'm at a crossroad, and I don't quite know which direction I should go in. Don't get me wrong, I feel like I've learnt so much this Summer, and I have grown so much as a person, but something in me feels like I'm at a standstill. When I'm not working, I'm trying to squeeze the most out of every single minute I've got, and when I'm not doing that, well, I'm just completely and utterly drained. 






I know what you're thinking; that's just life. We work, we sleep, we eat, we try to do what makes us happy, and what makes everyone else happy too. But the reality is, we can't be everything to everyone, and we can't spend all our days stuck in the same old boring routine. Life is too short to be anything but yourself, but there is not enough time to do all the things you want, or even need to do. That seems very contradictory, but this Summer I've really learnt how to make the most of every hour that I'm not working, and every cent I earn. 





D R O P  T H E  P H O N E

Ever since I broke my phone four months ago my absence from social media has really allowed me to grow as a person and get more from everyday. I'm done with looking at everyone's Snapchat stories, and watching my Instagram likes. Life is too short for you to worry about what other people are doing, who's following or unfollowing you and how many likes you can get on a profile picture. Life is not a competition or a popularity contest. Just be you, wholly and fully, and don't worry about what anyone else is thinking, saying or doing.






G O  O U T D O O R S

We are all guilty of spending a little too much time inside. Each day take it upon yourself to go outside. Embrace the elements, embrace life. Take time to smell the roses. I was fortunate enough that one of my jobs this Summer involved working outside everyday, but now that that has wound up, I find that I have to make a more conscious effort to go outside and seize the day and each of the opportunities it presents. Go to the beach, go swimming, go walking or running. Just find your escape




E X P L O R E

Travelling and exploring on a student budget is never easy. If, like me, you're stuck at home all Summer, try to take time out to explore where you live. Find new hidden gems and secret spots. Let yourself wander. Break rules. Find freedom in where you live.




Outfit:
Top, H&M
Jumper, H&M (link HERE)
Pants, Topshop
Shoes, Next
Earrings, Newbridge
Rings, New Look




When you feel like all you do is work, just try doing things a little differently to make Summer work for you,



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Sunday, 9 July 2017

How to Get Out of a Rut



There are two times every year when I find myself falling into a rut; January and July. Summer is a time that's (naturally) supposed to be full of Summer dresses, smiles and far too many trips to the beach, and while all of the above are usually easily accomplished, it is all too easy to get stuck in a pattern of eat, work, sleep, repeat. Routines completely change, you don't see your friends as often as you normally would, and most of us head back home from the city, to some of the most rural places imaginable. Naturally, I have quite a lot of experience when it comes to getting stuck in a rut, so today I'm sharing some of my top tips on how to get back out of it!





Time flies when you're having fun, and time flies when you're not having fun. Time just flies, and it's so important to set aside some time just for you, to do things you love (other than working or sleeping). Meet up with your friends, go for a run, find a new hobby - try to do more of what works for you, and what make you happy, and try to find happiness in everyday life. 


Dress, Topshop // Scarf, River Island // Sunglasses, H&M // Bag, Penneys // Shoes, Penneys




Try to explore new things, new foods and new places. Everything and anything that allows you to explore allows you to learn and grow. Try to remember that Travel is not the only thing that allows you to adventure, and just because you're stuck at home working nearly seven days a week doesn't mean that you don't have time to try something new. Allow yourself to wander, and try to become a "Yes" person.







Stop wasting time. If you blink your eyes three times Summer will pretty much already be over, so stop wasting all of it binge watching Netflix, or binge drinking so much that you don't remember what happened the night before. Just stop binging in general. Invest your time into something valuable. The world has so much to offer, but we don't really have that much time to experience it all. Choose how you spend your time wisely.







Finally, don't be afraid to be yourself, and take time to find who you are rather than trying to fit into what society tells you to be. You are worth more than what anyone will ever think of you for being who you are. Do what you love, the world is your oyster.




Summer is a time full of Summer dresses, smiles and far too many trips to the beach. I feel like I've successfully ticked all the above off my list, and thankfully I've mastered beating those initial Summer blues too. I guess this outfit celebrates that. This Topshop dress is the most comfortable Summer dress I ever did own, and of course the Penneys shoes are everything. My friend picked up a pair before we finished college, and when I saw them I couldn't help but pick myself up a pair too! I've left a few links to what I'm wearing and similar pieces below 





Until next time,

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